As 2012 is winding down and 2013 is about to kick off, I thought it’d be a great idea to take a moment reflecting on myself and share with you the 3 most valuable life lessons I’ve learned in the area of work, money, and love. So let’s just dive straight to the point:
#1 Work – Where’s The MAGIC Actually: I often hear people say that ALL the “magic” will happen once you move out your comfort zone (sounds familiar?) and I kinda disagree with that statement. There were too many times in life where I took risks, went beyond my comfort zone, took action and have done all the steps required… but in the end failed miserably! I’ve also seen many people took action, stepped out their comfort zone, then magic didn’t happen and they stepped back into their comfort zone.
Let me tell you upfront. Magic doesn’t happen right away once you step out your comfort zone (but you need this as the first step). Magic doesn’t happen when you take action and do what you’re told to do. Magic doesn’t happen when you’re a smart ass among others, trying to run the whole show yourself… If so, where’s the magic then?
Here’s the answer. Magic happens once you connect with the right people. Once you met the right people (boss/mentor/partner/team), you’ll be given the right opportunity, and once you work on the right opportunity – Yes, that’s where the magic truly happens!
#2 Money – Remember, It’s Always EARN’able: There were times in my life where I completely went broke and couldn’t pay the bills for a month or two (due to business failures, working on wrong projects, taking advice from wrong people). I truly understand the shitty feeling of having not enough money because I’ve been in that position before. But what I’ve realized is – money is always ‘earnable’: you lost it, you can earn it back. In fact money is not that difficult to earn once you know-how, all you need is having the right knowledge, being committed and willing to do the work to earn it.
Having said that, please be reminded that there’re many things in life that you CAN’T earn it back once you lost it. E.g. time that has passed, harsh words that have said, mistakes that have made, people we hurt… these things are more valuable than money.
#3 Love – Learn To Love The People Who Love You: I’ve to admit that I’m not a person who knows how to love. But here’s what I realized… too often, I’ve made the mistake of being affable to people that I’m not close with while treating my loved ones in a standoffish manner. This is definitely not a good behavior and I’m still learning to love my loved ones the way they are. This includes forgivingly accepting their shortcomings.
If you want to be loved, first you need to learn how to love. And all this starts from loving your family i.e. your parents, your sibling(s), your spouse, and your children. Treat them the way you like to be treated, give more attention and spend more time with them. Focus on people who love and care about you… the rest is really SECONDARY.
So these are my 3 valuable life lessons that I’ve learned in 2012. What about you? I’d be interested to know if you can share the 3 MOST valuable lessons you’ve learned with me below. Thanks for reading and lets go into 2013 with confidence and optimism!